<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"><channel><atom:link href="http://starshooter.net/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2111&amp;Type=RSS20" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /><title>Jay's Blog</title><description>Jay Wolf has been teaching basketball for over 37 years. Jay has long standing relationships with many of the most respected coaches and players in the USA that you can benefit from. Jay's blog is intended for players of all ages, parents, coaches and mentors. The benefits of reading Jays blog are many, from mental and physical skills to teaching and parenting athletes. During the last 10 years he has completely focused on teaching shooting skills but this blog will cover all things basketball and then some. Please feel free to comment wherever you see fit.</description><link>http://starshooter.net/</link><lastBuildDate>Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:18:44 GMT</lastBuildDate><docs>http://backend.userland.com/rss</docs><generator>RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/</generator><item><title>Too Many BIG Men Can't Score in the Post</title><description>&lt;h1 style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&amp;nbsp;Too Many BIG Men Can't Score in the Post&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/h1&gt;
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&lt;h1 style="text-align: left;"&gt;Having a dominant player in the post is a critical asset for ANY team if they want to be successful. &amp;nbsp;So many big men in the game don't have good footwork in the paint nor&amp;nbsp;are they a major threat within 8 feet of the&amp;nbsp;basket. Yes, I said 8 feet. &lt;/h1&gt;
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Don't rely on size.&amp;nbsp; &lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/strong&gt;Too often tall players rely only on their size in high school and then when they get to college, they find that there are a ton of tall people that simply won't allow them to "dunk" whenever they like. Not having the shooting skills nor footwork to get open IMMEDIATELY puts that player at least TWO YEARS BEHIND. In the mean time, coaches are forced to&amp;nbsp;check out the&amp;nbsp;JC ranks to help their program.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;strong&gt;What to do? &lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/strong&gt;1.&amp;nbsp; Videotape your game. Then videotape good college players that can score in the post and analyze their game. Replay the video&amp;nbsp;in slow motion so see EXACTLY how they get open. Don't be afraid to be critical of YOUR game. A humble attitude is an athlete's BEST trait.&lt;br /&gt;
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2. Work on your shooting mechanics. NEVER DROP THE BALL BELOW THE CHEST as you practice.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="text-align: left;"&gt;3. Shoot at game speed. &lt;br /&gt;
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4.&amp;nbsp;MAKE 5 in a ROW doing the SAME shot from the SAME distance. That will FORCE you to be consistent.&lt;br /&gt;
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Questions? Never hesitate to contact Ryan or Jay.&lt;/p&gt;
</description><link>http://starshooter.net/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2111&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=111318&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fstarshooter.net%252fBlogRetrieve.aspx%253fBlogID%253d1646%2526PostID%253d111318</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://starshooter.net/BlogRetrieve.aspx?BlogID=1646&amp;PostID=111318</guid><pubDate>Tue, 06 Jul 2010 16:37:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Shooting Accuracy: The SMALL Stuff is VERY Important</title><description>&lt;h1 style="text-align: center;"&gt;Shooting Accuracy: The SMALL Stuff is&amp;nbsp;VERY Important&lt;/h1&gt;
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&lt;p style="text-align: left;"&gt;The longer the shot, the&amp;nbsp;more attention is needed for&amp;nbsp;proper mechanics.&amp;nbsp; Here's a good example of how a small mistake turns into a large mistake. &lt;br /&gt;
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Roll a basketball along a line on the gym floor. If it is off line just a little, the farther it gets from the starting point, the farther it deviates from the line. &lt;br /&gt;
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It's the same with shooting. If the ball is released just slightly off line with the center of the basket, the longer it is in the air, the more it will be off line. When you consider that the margin of error left and right is only 4.5 inches, it is easy to understand the importance of a perfect release. &lt;br /&gt;
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With that in mind, practice often by focusing on the index finger while modeling the shot - while watching TV, in the lunch line, anywhere - and while shooting air shots. When focusing on the&amp;nbsp;index finger, THINK about moving both the index and middle fingers&amp;nbsp;together. Why not focus on both the index and the middle fingers? It's impossible. THINKING&amp;nbsp;will make both work as one.&amp;nbsp; &lt;/p&gt;
</description><link>http://starshooter.net/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2111&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=110856&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fstarshooter.net%252fBlogRetrieve.aspx%253fBlogID%253d1646%2526PostID%253d110856</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://starshooter.net/BlogRetrieve.aspx?BlogID=1646&amp;PostID=110856</guid><pubDate>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 20:01:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>"Don't Change Basketball Shooting Form During the Season" - True or False</title><description>&lt;h1 align="center"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;"Don't Change Basketball Shooting Form During the Season"&lt;br /&gt;
True  or  False&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="text-align: left;"&gt;ANSWER? False.  &lt;br /&gt;
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Here's a good rule to follow concerning basketball shooting form &lt;strong&gt;- "SUCCESS determines CHANGE".  &lt;/strong&gt;If the ball is going in at an acceptable rate - from the field at 45% from 2pt distance, 40% from 3pt distance, and 75% from the FT line - then change isn't necessary. &lt;br /&gt;
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I often hear coaches say, "we address all form problems after the season is over". That doesn't make sense for the individual who wants to score be but is told not to shoot because his or her skill level is too poor.  Scoring makes a player work even harder at all aspects of the game. &lt;br /&gt;
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Have you ever heard a coach tell a player the following: &lt;br /&gt;
"If you get a rebound in the lane, you can put it up. But anything outside the paint, dish it back out."  &lt;br /&gt;
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What is really being said is, "your skills are so bad that I don't want you shooting the ball". That player is not stupid. They understand their problem. So tell me - why can't that player change their mechanics during the season?  &lt;span style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;They have absolutely nothing to lose!&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;That's why I designed my Star Shooter Program so ANYONE can improve their shooting technique - without the help of a coach.&lt;strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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</description><link>http://starshooter.net/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2111&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=101858&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fstarshooter.net%252fBlogRetrieve.aspx%253fBlogID%253d1646%2526PostID%253d101858</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://starshooter.net/BlogRetrieve.aspx?BlogID=1646&amp;PostID=101858</guid><pubDate>Mon, 04 Jan 2010 19:26:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Give Your Kids a Huge Advantage</title><description>&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Early in my career as a Physical Education teacher, there was a study done on determining &lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial;"&gt;what causes kids to participate in a particular sport&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;.  The #1 reason was quite obvious. Success.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial;"&gt;Kids like to do those things they are good at&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;. Therefore, to get kids to be more active, teach the mechanics of “activity” – throwing, catching, kicking, leverage, etc. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;I used this information with our four sons.  Each was taught the mechanics of the skills involved in the various sports they liked. ( I didn’t force them into a sport.) Although &lt;b&gt;NOT blessed with great talent&lt;/b&gt;, what I noticed as they played with kids with more natural ability was that they were able to be successful. No, they didn’t win every contest, but, &lt;b&gt;they were able to “enjoy” competing because they had an advantage.&lt;/b&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: arial;"&gt;Mechanics – Mechanics – Mechanics &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;TODAY, only one thing has changed.  I have a helper - Ryan. Ask him how much mechanics helped his shot. &lt;a href="mailto:Ryan@starshooter.net"&gt;Ryan@starshooter.net&lt;/a&gt;  That’s why we do what we do.  As a coach or an athlete, &lt;b&gt;improving&lt;/b&gt; &lt;b&gt;mechanics is the key to success. &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Simple Tip That Improves Mechanics&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Modeling &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;is extremely effective for improving shooting mechanics and it’s often overlooked because it sounds so simple. What makes it so effective is doing it the RIGHT way. Here’s a few pointers:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 39pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: symbol;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal;"&gt;         &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Start without a ball&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;. Only add it when perfection is achieved. The ball often acts as a distraction. Keep this in mind, always START SIMPLE no matter what the ability.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 39pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: symbol;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal;"&gt;         &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Watch the problem at ALL times – without and with the ball&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;.  If the elbow is flying out, keep the eyes on the elbow throughout the shooting motion. DON’T STARE INTO SPACE. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 39pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: symbol;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal;"&gt;         &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Start slow and move to Game Speed&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 39pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: symbol;"&gt;·&lt;span style="font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal;"&gt;         &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Close the eyes &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;to THINK about the problem and FEEL if it is done right or wrong. Closing the eyes accentuates the sense of FEEL.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;When Your Child Wants To Quit&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;When your child comes home from practice or a game and wants to quit, how will you react? As parents, it’s up to us to recognize these opportunities as teachable moments. What follows are some insights to consider as you guide your child through a difficult time. &lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Sleep on it&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;When emotions are high, it’s best to allow time to cool down.  It’s ok to let them vent their feelings but then explain that quitting is a major decision and major decisions are best made with a cool head. Suggest that both of you “sleep on it” and then, promise to discuss it the next day.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt; &lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Quitting Affects the TEAM&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;If quitting is still their desire the next day, it’s important that the consequences of such a decision be discussed. A major concern to address is that quitting during the season affects the entire TEAM. Most athletes don’t view the TEAM as an organization where each member is selected to play a role. They see themselves as “on” the team instead of a “part” of the team.  They need to understand that while some members are called on to compete during the game, others are needed to prepare them to compete as well as play as needed.  Any time someone quits, a “part” of the team is then missing.  During the season, there isn’t enough time to try to replace that person therefore, the team is left shorthanded.  &lt;br /&gt;
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TEAM Similar to a TV Show &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;A good illustration to cement the TEAM concept is to consider the make-up of a weekly TV program. The cast –those in front of the cameras - are only a small number of all that are involved. It takes writers, directors, designers, cameramen, lighting artists, make-up artists - the list goes on and on.  All have a role – be it large or small - in making the show a success.  It’s the same with an athletic team.&lt;br /&gt;
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The Best Time to Quit / Change Direction &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;The best time to stop pursuing the goal of perfecting one’s skill in a particular sport is at the end of the season.  At that point, the decision only affects the athlete, not the team. However, before the decision is made to pursue other interests, it’s good to remind the athlete that this is one of those decisions they will remember for the rest of their life.  With that in mind, encourage them to take some time to think about the pros and cons.  Making a list often helps to make the choice more clear.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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“If I Quit, Will I Let My Parents Down?”&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt; &lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;When an athlete chooses to leave a sport and pursue other interests, even though it’s done appropriately at the end of a season, they often feel they are letting their parent(s) down. Therefore, it’s important to reassure them that they are still loved and respected. Anytime our children take the time to approach a difficult decision in a logical manner, we can be proud.  It demonstrates exactly what we have hoped for in their lives - character and maturity.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;The 1st in a series of 3 articles.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;My wife, Joyce, and I have had the privilege of raising fours sons, all of whom were avid athletes. To make matters even more interesting, Dad was often the coach. As we look back at our parenting skills over those days, we often comment on how much we learned about how to communicate with our children. We feel a bit sorry for our oldest son – the guinea pig – as we bumbled along through trial and error. It would have been very helpful if someone had given us a few hints on how to be more effective parents. That’s the reason for this article. I don’t want to come across as an expert. All I have is some experience and I’d like to pass it along. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;After The Game - Advocate vs Adversary&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;An advocate means to “come along side to help”. An adversary means “to come against - as in, attack”. I’m not proud of the fact that after a game, I would often “should” all over our oldest. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;“In the fourth quarter, you should’a did this. Then, you could’a did that. If only you would’a . . .” &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;His response to this type of communication was often negative, especially in the later teen years. Hey, I just wanted to help him get better. But what I didn’t realize was that my “help” was perceived as an ATTACK. What happens when a person is attacked? You guessed it. They either attack back or they retreat. Do they learn whatever nugget of wisdom you were trying to convey? Absolutely not! &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Here’s one of the ways I later learned that both helped our son’s game and helped build our relationship as well.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;TIP:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt; &lt;strong&gt;Compliment and Challenge&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;strong&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Start out with a &lt;strong&gt;compliment.&lt;/strong&gt; Pick out something you saw that was good. Be honest. Don’t make stuff up. Kids know if they’ve done well or not. It may go something like this, &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;“You did an excellent job distributing the ball tonight. I was impressed at how unselfish you were.” &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;If you did see some area where they could improve, &lt;strong&gt;challenge&lt;/strong&gt; them.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;“I did notice something that may help to improve your game.&lt;span&gt; &lt;/span&gt;When you’re ready – not right now – &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;let me know. I’d like to run it past you and get your opinion.” &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;By not ATTACKING, the lines of communication are open. By having them come to you, they set the time to listen. By asking their opinion of your idea, you cause them to think through what you are saying. Plus, you don’t come across as the great “know it all” – “my way is the only way”. Both of you are working together, trying to see if there is a way to improve. The parent becomes an &lt;strong&gt;advocate – coming along side to help - &lt;/strong&gt;instead of an&lt;strong&gt; adversary&lt;/strong&gt;. Whenever I used this method, and I did this many times, never once did our sons fail to come back and ask, &lt;em&gt;“Dad, you said you wanted to run something by me that might help my game. What was it?.”&lt;/em&gt; When this happens, NOW we have a “teachable moment”. Better yet, we have a moment that “builds” the relationship between parent and child.&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/p&gt;

</description><link>http://starshooter.net/RSSRetrieve.aspx?ID=2111&amp;A=Link&amp;ObjectID=79991&amp;ObjectType=56&amp;O=http%253a%252f%252fstarshooter.net%252fBlogRetrieve.aspx%253fBlogID%253d1646%2526PostID%253d79991</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://starshooter.net/BlogRetrieve.aspx?BlogID=1646&amp;PostID=79991</guid><pubDate>Sat, 15 Aug 2009 01:39:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Tips For Parenting an Athlete - Reacting to Playing Time by Jay Wolf, Part 2 of 3 ©2009</title><description>&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Tips for Parenting An Athlete:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;“It's not fair. My son/daughter has to practice like everyone else so they should get just as much chance to play.”&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;As long as parents have athletes competing, playing time will always be an issue.  What follows are my suggestions on how to handle this frustrating situation based on my experience as a parent and a coach.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Tip: Keep the Athlete Out Of The Middle&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: left;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;When a parent asks, “Why doesn’t your coach play you more?”, the athlete is immediately placed in the middle.  They want to make their parents happy but THEY feel they can’t go to the coach and ask for more playing time. The coach may have a rule about complaining or the athlete may feel they just aren’t good enough to deserve more time. This causes considerable stress on the player and has been known to negatively affect their lives in several ways. At times it puts a strain on the parent / child relationship and, as a coach, I’ve also seen performances deteriorate both on the court and in the classroom. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Generally speaking, playing time should be left for coaches to decide because their decisions are based on judging performance during practice. However, in successful programs, game participation is determined by the level of competition.  For instance, at sixth grade level, game time is equally divided; whereas, the closer athletes get to varsity level, a smaller number will receive playing time.  It takes on a funnel affect.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Tip: Change Policy vs Attack The Coach&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: left;"&gt; &lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;When playing time at the lower levels is an issue, the best way to channel your frustration is to try to change the policy within the organization. By doing this, your efforts will affect ALL athletes  whereas if you challenge the coach directly, it only affects your child.  Find out who is overseeing the league or organization and politely voice your opinion. Inform the coach of your concern as well. If he or she agrees with you, they can make changes immediately whereas policy changes take more time to implement.       &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Tip: Encouragement and Perspective Needed At Upper Levels&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt; &lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Playing time at upper levels is best handled by encouraging the athlete and keeping it in perspective.  When your child gets older, they will always remember how Mom and Dad “were there for them” during a difficult time in their life. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;I recall how stressful this issue was on my wife and I when one of our sons was in college. It was during this time he taught us a valuable lesson that we will never forget.  Whereas we wanted him to talk to the coach, he responded with, “Dad, I’m not going to close a door. Some day I may need Coach to help me.”  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;Well that day came and that same coach – the one who treated him so unfair in our eyes - gave our son a glowing recommendation that was instrumental in his being chosen for a very good job – a teacher and coach. Yes, sometimes our children see the whole picture better than we parents.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: arial;"&gt;At least once a month, shooting specialist Jay Wolf will be submitting more tips on parenting - his first series - as well as tips on how to improve your shooting skills.  For more information on his products, go to www,starshooter.net &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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